You are programmed to find flaws in yourself, you are programmed to never be satisfied because you can always “be better”. 

It will take time to unlearn all this programming but it is possible. It seems daunting but its possible. 

We all leave in our own little snow globe, everyone you see has a different perception of the world and the idea of “perfect”. Since that Is the case, then the idea of “perfect” does not exist.  

You will never be perfect in everyone’s eyes, but to few you will. Accept that fact. Start believing that no one is like you, and that is the most amazing thing that can be. 

To love yourself is to accept yourself. Self Love is Self Acceptance. Accepting that you are your idea of “perfect” and that’s all that is. 

Self acceptance includes accepting the way you look, the way you smile, the way you think, your skin. Because that’s who you are, you can’t change these things. Once you realise that this is the only body, only life you have and will have - life will start being amazing. 

You are beautiful, you are divine, you are amazing. 

Now, how can you reprogram your mind to truly believe this? 

Journal. Yes you have probably heard this a million times, But journaling is going to help you rewrite your narrative. 

It does take effort to take your pen and notebook out, sometimes it will be exhausting to even think about this - that’s why so many of us avoid or procrastinate doing this. 

Write down all the things you use to identify your self, don’t be afraid to be descriptive, use words like “selfish” “ugly” “Unlovable” “dumb”. Once you have identified this, reframe them to “Caring“  “beautiful” “lovable” “Intelligent”. 

Once you have reframed that, take a look at all the description you want to identify yourself with and right out affirmations starting with “I AM”. Read them out loud so often that it becomes second nature. 

Remember, accept the things you can’t change about yourself by reframing how you identify it.

Quoting the poet Rumi

“ Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it” 

Self acceptance is Self Love, you have to accept all parts of you and tear down the self destructing beliefs you’ve built all your life. You are not your flaws.